New Beginnings in a New State
My physiological needs also need dire attention. I need to lose weight. I'm addicted to sugar. I eat when I feel down. (I'm actually enjoying fried nuggets and chips right now 😳 So yes, this is an area I need to focus on. Actually, I need to lose 40 kilos!!!!
One of the most inspiring podcasts I listened to on the journey was Tony Robbins. His Driving Force theory suggests there are six core human needs that shape who we are. Basically, everything we do is driven by six core human needs which include: Certainty, Uncertainty, Significance, Love and connection, Growth and Contribution.
So I did the test, my driving force is Uncertainty which isn't surprising to me at all. Take the Driving Force Test by clicking here
Tony Robbins suggests: I need constant change in order to feel truly alive. Variety, excitement, surprise, diversity, and challenge are my watchwords.
My superpowers are:
A sense of adventure: I'm willing to roll up your sleeves and try something new, from food to employment. Others might see the unknown as scary, but for me, it's life (I guess, this superpower drove me to make this major life-changing decision!)
Adaptability: I interact with all kinds of people in all kinds of places. I can change and enjoy doing so.
Many interests: What am I not interested in? That's the real question! I can make stimulating conversation about almost any topic, and if I don't already know something, I am eager to learn about it.
Energy: I move around. Physically and mentally. I avoid habits and routines that could make me bored.
My kryptonite is:
Plan adverse: Because I have always got the idea that things will change, I likely have an unwillingness to plan in my job, investments or relationships. This can limit possible new experiences in the long-term.
Learned helplessness: Like so many of us, it is easy to fall into the trap of thinking I have no control over a situation, just give up, and move onto the next thing. If I say, "I can't" enough, eventually I won't.
Unfocused: The dark side of uncertainty is I can get involved with too many things at once, and become careless about myself or others. If something is not interesting, I'm likely to drop it, even if it will reap rewards later on. This may make me unreliable to others.
Addictive or destructive behaviors: Because I value variety, my need for ever-changing stimulation ironically may lead to developing patterns that make me feel certain to get that variety. This can manifest in many forms, like drinking, drug abuse and over/under eating (I used to be bulimic in my early twenties, I lost my gag reflex and now I'm 40kgs overweight!) The same might be said for my relationships. I develop patterns that give me the certainty that I will have uncertainty. Hmmm...
Where to shift my focus?
Certainty: Too much uncertainty leads to panic. Humans crave stability and learning how to have roots and stability while still enjoying adventures will help me to live a more balanced life.
Live in the present: Instead of always thinking about the next adventure, the next new thing, focus on enjoying the current moment.
Growth and contribution: Combined, these two needs make us feel fulfilled and whole. Making progress leads to happiness, which then turns into more joy to share with others in my life who need it. Tap into my natural empathy and think about others' needs instead of just my own.
Actions I need to take to move forward:
- Create a budget and stick to it (Financial stability/certainty).
- Create a holiday schedule and start planning weekend trips, and school holidays (Sence of adventure).
- Consolidate my ideas, inspiration pieces and bring them together in the one place so I can move forward with one thing at a time. (Provide focus)
- Close down the businesses I'm not passionate about. (Variety)
- Schedule a fitness schedule (Work on my physiological needs)
- Schedule a blog schedule (Growth)
I'm open to suggestions! Ask me a question and I'll answer it!
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